September 13, 2009

When are they too young for…….? Pt. 1

Filed under: hair care — danasloft @ 8:33 pm

dreamstime_littlegirls2In my years of doing hair, I have heard plenty stories of when my clients got their first relaxer. I’ve heard stories as early as 4-5 years old (that blows my mind). I also have a lot of new mothers asking me when is the best time to start relaxing their daughter’s hair. So here is my whole take on this subject:

When I was a child my mother use to send us to the neighbor across the alley to get our hair pressed, now Miss Charlotte could press the hell out our hair! My sisters and I all had different hair types: my oldest sis Dianne’s hair was a finer, looser curl (similar to my mother’s), Joan, the middle girl, had an ultra thick, medium curl texture and I had a thick super tight curl. But Miss Charlotte could get us straight with a little grease and a straightening comb. Now mind you, it was only on holidays that my mother would do this, any other time we would have our hair in pony tails, usually 3 or more. At this time my mother was a single parent, my father died when I was 5, who worked during the day and went to school at night; but every day she would comb our hair and put it into pony tails. And once a week she would wash and condition our hair, with a lot of fighting and crying from yours truly. My mother did not relax our hair not once, and she never made us feel as if our hair was “bad hair”. As a matter of fact, I put my own relaxer in for the first time when I was 13. I guess I was destined to be a hair stylist.

When I did become a stylist some 10 years later, I learnt a lot more about our hair and our different textures. One very important thing that I have learned is that our hair does not come into its own until we are about 12 years old. This means, that just like our bodies are developing until we reach a certain age, so is our hair. So if you as a parent who decides to put a chemical in your child’s hair before they are of 12, you are altering the texture of your child’s hair, which in most cases is for the worst! Not a good thing. Also what are you putting in your child’s head at an early age about their hair texture? As well as promoting low self-esteem early on. I am aware that a lot of black children have had their hair chemically altered at a young age, some as adults, don’t even know what their natural hair texture is because they started so young with chemicals; but the cycle has to stop at some point.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am not against relaxing your hair as a means to styling or maintaining a look. But I do believe that relaxers are not for every one and first let’s start by knowing and loving our hair before we start the alteration of our texture. And if you are putting chemicals in your child’s hair before it has grown into its own, your starting a pattern of issues that they will carry with them for the rest of their lives, and we all know what that is like.

So I beg all you mothers out there who have yetto  put a relaxer in you childs hair, but have though about it because you feel that you “can’t do anything with this hair”; think about you child and what she will have to deal with growing up. She might learn to hate what GOD has given her and that can cause many, many damaging hair issues down the road. Do you want to be responsable for that?

Hit me up Sweeties and tell me your early hair stories! d

If you have any question, concerns or need advice about your childs hair please feel free to write me at info@danasloft.com , also look for up coming classe on how to manage and take care of your child’s hair.


September 7, 2009

When Tears turns to Triumph

Filed under: Beauty from the inside — danasloft @ 1:10 am

Although this is normally a blog about hair, beauty and fashion, I feel that when important things about women are brought to my attention, I must write about them.

My long time client and dear friend, Dawn Marie Daniels and her business partner, Candace Sandy (also a friend) have just released their third book: Tears to Triumph Women Learn to Live, Love and Thrive, Kensington Publishing Corp. Like their other two books: Souls of My Sisters and Souls Revealed, Tears to Triumph is a book about women’s personal challenges and their triumph over life’s difficult and unfair hardships. tears to triumph¥MECH

With the assistance of Dr. Jarralynne Agee, this book will help you learn:

  • How to identify the lesson in the moment
  • The cause of stressful behaviors-and the solutions
  • What to look for, how to react, and where to go for more help
  • Specific ways to insure emotional, interpersonal, and career success
  • Identify your success pattern based on your unique experience

“You can be happy and live a healthy, fulfilling life while rising to meet today’s difficult challenges”      Tears to Triumph

I have had the honor and pleasure of writing one of the stories in this book, Love it Away p. 164, as well as two of my friends; Roberta Ham Walker, Ph.D, Repositioning p. 51 and Francyne Ellison, Love Really Matters p. 208; and I am sure that we can all agree that writing these stories have been very therapeutic for us!

So, even if you are not in the mood for another self-help book, I feel in this time of uncertainty and transition, we all could use a book of this kind to get us through our bumps in the road.

Check out Tears to  Triumph, I promise you, it will be just what you need, at this moment.

Tears to Triumph is sold at Target, Wal-Mart, Barnes and Noble, Amazon and www.soulsofmysisters.com

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